Peer Pressure

Peer pressure... friend pressure... gentle push... friendly encouragement, whatever you want to call it, I am going to say it starts at the age of 2 and ends at death...

When you are single and the majority of your friends are in a relationship or married they think "online dating" is a great idea and something you HAVE to try! I was a little turned off when someone saw my ex- husband on one of the sites and sent me his "profile." I am well aware of his writing capabilities, since I usually drafted the majority of his emails for him. I am sure he picked one from a drop down box or had a customer care rep help him. It was also complete BS! So, the thought of online dating turned my stomach.

We have all given into peer pressure and I did, I folded. I thought what the heck what can it hurt. So I am going to summarize the (3) dating stories into one post so we don't have to replay this craziness in more than one. Then we are all going to forget it ever happened and never consider online dating again.

Guy 1:

He emailed me and it was not flirtatious nor did he say anything that crossed the line. It was a general email playing "get to know you" we emailed back and forth for a week or so answering and asking questions and getting to know each other. After a week or so of communicating we exchanged numbers and he texted me. So, for another week we played "get to know you" through text. Then he mentioned getting together a local place to meet.

I told him that I'd like to speak with him over the phone prior to meeting, so we did, we talked once- for 2 hours and talked more in depth about past experiences, faith, kids, beliefs...etc. He had a good job that he had been at for 10 years, he had attended the same church for 13 years and was actively involved, he had kids and seemed like a good dad, role model.

He didn't seem crazy, so I agreed to meet him on a week night at a local crowded spot in town. When I walked in and saw him, he was well groomed, nicely dressed and he smelled good! It was off to a good start. We shared appetizers and chatted for a few hours before calling it a night. The conversation was good and flowed well. He walked me to my car and texted me on my way home that he had a great time and would like to see me again.

We had a few more dates- dinner, dessert and coffee and walk in the park and ice-cream after. I thought he was coming up with creative dates but hindsight I think he was spending the least amount of money possible until he knew I was going to give him what he wanted. I could be wrong....

So, things seemed to be moving a long at a good pace, he was sending me "good morning" text messages, chatting through out the day...we had been talking for about a month and half at this point and  then.... I got the text that said "I think I would like to kick the tires" kick the tires? Really? Reeeeeallly? I can't make this stuff up. I sat in awe for what seemed like 30 minutes with my chin on my desk. After I regained consciousness that it had actually happened, I responded "Your not even going to get to test drive the car much less kick the tires" no response.... another day goes by..... no response... fast forward to today, a year later, no response!


Guy 2:

So, the next dating disaster from online dating also emailed me as that is how it works. You chat via email through the site and when you feel comfortable you exchange numbers. Ok, so we chat play "get to know you" and after a week or so we exchanged numbers and started texting each other.

We started chatting through text on a Wednesday and  found out we had similar interest in music, food, hobbies- he said he would like to meet me and we scheduled a date for the following Monday because I had plans with M and was going to be gone over the weekend. The following day Thursday, he texted me and started the "get to know you again" a few hours after chatting he said this is going to sound crazy but we are adults and it will be fun, I thought to myself - oh boy here we go. He asked me "let's do a sex questionnaire to see if we are compatible" I said "no thanks" insert, completely turned off now. He said "it will be fun we are grown adults"  I didn't respond.

The next day, Friday I get a text "I am going to be out of pocket for the weekend and I am not going to have reception, have a great weekend" Really? Cause there are not many places you can go these days that doesn't have cell services my BS radar went off and that is completely ok, because I honestly lost interest at "will you do a sex questionnaire to see if we are compatible"

and yea.. I never heard from again if you were curious..

Guy 3:

So, this fellow emails me tells me he thinks I have a beautiful smile and eyes. At least it was a compliment and not crossing the line. So insert "get to know" you as mentioned above and fast forward to him asking me on a date. I was hesitant cause he was "ok" in the looks arena and for those thinking don't judge a book by the cover, you need to be attracted to the person you are dating. I chalked it up to not everyone takes pictures well and agreed to meet him. He was funny and had a sense of humor. So, the night of the date sends me a text 25 minutes before he is supposed to meet me and says "what is the name of the place we are meeting at again"  ok, this isn't going to go well. He lacks attention to detail cause I texted it to him earlier in the day.

I arrive and he strolls in 10 minutes late.

This date was painful, he was arrogant and he talllllllkkkkkkeeeed the whooooooollle time. My ears were bleeding. I answered two questions in a matter of 3 hours. He cussed through out the date and was arrogant and thought he was funny. It was painful...I pushed through saying a thankful prayer that the restaurant closed at 10 and we had to leave. He walked me to my car where he talked another 20 minutes about his Dad's dog. He gave me a hug and I texted him when I got home and thanked him for meeting me but I didn't feel a connection and wished him the best of luck.

I canceled my account the moment I got home...

It is not for me... some people, yes-  but not me.

and that is my online dating experience.


Blessings,
Jen